I’m not sure I realized how much I was struggling until my dear friend, Linda, posted a comment on my Song Lyric Sunday Theme post last night. I will be forever grateful to Linda and this amazing community I have found for the constant support and outpouring of love.
I’ve always struggled with fitting into the “pretty” lot. It wasn’t until later in my life that I ditched the whole idea and decided to go in a different direction. It’s still an ideal that haunts me, though. I’m not sure why I think of “pretty” as an ideal in which to fit, rather than defining it in my own way, which is, I think much more accurate.
Pretty is different things to different people, so I don’t understand why there is such a “standard” idea of it posted everywhere for everyone to see. It bothers me on so many levels. I think the only way to combat it, though, is to rise up against it and create our own idea of “pretty”.
When my sister was suffering from breast cancer, she had to face the awful decision of how many breasts to remove in order to stop the cancer’s progress. I remember her crying on the phone and telling me she just wanted to feel like a woman. She decided to only remove one of them, in order to keep feeling in the other. I just remember how awful it was to realize that we define ourselves as women in such strange ways…
Our hair… our boobs… our uterus, perhaps?…
I’ve been faced with the realization that my womanly parts are only causing me pain. I’m not sad to know they are soon to be gone, but it’s odd to realize that the thing that helped me create children will soon be gone. Does that make me less pretty?
Was I less pretty when I decided to shave my head to support my sister in her fight against breast cancer?
Are men less pretty when they have a beer belly rather than a six pack?
NO!! I resent the idea of being defined by our looks or our abilities… am I less of a woman because I don’t have certain parts that normally define women?
Lets stop judging ourselves and others and just realize that we are all BEINGS living out our lives.. trying to find acceptance and love. I love you all for your acceptance and your love. I don’t believe I would be writing today if it wasn’t for your love and support, so thank you!
I know the last few months have been scarce, but I plan to return in full force after the new year.
I love you all and wish you all a happy holiday season of love, beauty and peace!
This post is part of Stream of Consciousness Saturday hosted by Linda G. Hill. I’m a day late, but yesterday’s prompt was “pretty.”